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Is a narcissist making child custody decisions difficult?

When some New York residents got married, they may have felt that their spouses were a little full of themselves. Over the years, that notion may have grown into realizing that they had married complete narcissists. Not only did these spouses feel a sense of entitlement, desire constant admiration and believe they were the center of everyone's lives, but they may have also had negative impacts on their children. As these issues grew, the time for divorce came as did making child custody decisions.

It is not unusual for a narcissistic parent to cause children to have low self-esteem and confidence issues. They often want their children to be as "perfect" as they feel themselves to be, and as a result, every action made by the children may come into question by this parent. This destructive behavior may have a non-narcissistic parent concerned about what would happen if the other parent gained custody after divorce.

Self-care and assistance may make divorce more manageable

It is common for people to struggle to find ways to take care of themselves when they are facing a difficult situation. In many cases, parties may think that they should push themselves to the side in order to remain focused on the important decisions ahead. While this may seem like a responsible strategy, it may not be the best approach for New York residents going through divorce.

Because stress and emotions can run high during the marriage dissolution process, individuals may want to make time for themselves. Choosing to go for a walk to clear one's mind may help a person better refocus and determine what is important in life. As a result, parties may have a better chance of making divorce-related decisions that will benefit them in the long run.

Child support often needed, often unpaid after divorce

Being a parent is an expensive job for which most New York residents do not get paid. However, after divorce, some parents should receive child support from their ex-spouse in order to help meet the needs of the kids. Because this support can prove vital in ensuring the that children have their necessities, it can be difficult when the paying parent does not meet his or her obligations.

It was recently reported that a considerable number of parents who are in line to receive child support do not actually get that support. The information comes from the United States Census Bureau, which released information on the topic for 2015. The statistics showed that during that year, three out of 10 custodial parents did not receive any financial support due to them. This number was apparently the highest since 1993.

New York abuse victims may fear filing for divorce

When many New York residents learn that a family member or friend is in an abusive marriage, they may encourage their loved ones to get out as soon as possible. To individuals outside the situation, filing for divorce may seem like the obvious solution to the problem. However, as many domestic abuse victims know, leaving an abuser is not always easy.

In many cases, when an abusive person learns that his or her spouse is thinking about leaving, the abuse can escalate. The individual may threaten or carry out harmful actions against the spouse, their children or even him or herself. One woman gave her account of how her abusive marriage ended in the suicide of her husband after he found out she wanted to leave him. She believes that if she had been present at the time, he would have killed her as well.

What to do if you disagree with a child custody order

If you and your spouse are in the midst of a bitter divorce in Suffolk, chances are you and your spouse are in disagreement about who gets custody of the kids. Though you both have a decent income and feel your children are better off without the other parent, the courts and law state otherwise. Your kids deserve to have both of their parents in their lives, even though things may not be right between you and their other guardian. 

If you and your spouse cannot agree on custody, the courts will decide for you. Here is some info for you to consider if the child custody ruling is not in your favor. 

Working together could help parents come to child custody terms

As parents going through divorce, many New York residents may feel as if they have failed their children. Because they can no longer get along with their spouses, they may think that their kids will suffer as a result. However, if individuals take the proper steps toward creating a child custody plan that works in the best interests of their children, those kids may face less turmoil than expected.

If parents feel they have nothing left in common except for the kids, that is not necessarily a bad thing when it comes to custody. They may be able to put aside their differences and come up with a parenting plan that allows their kids to continue to thrive and also have relationships with both parents. Of course, the idea of coming up with a parenting agreement may still seem daunting.

Parents' divorce can have negative impacts on adult children

Many parents worry about the effects that ending their marriage will have on their kids. In particular, individuals often have concerns regarding child custody and their young children. However, many New York residents may have grown children for whom custody terms are not needed but who could still face considerable impacts as a result of their parents' divorce.

Though some individuals may see divorcing when the kids are grown as easier, they may still wish to consider the emotional turmoil that their children could face. For instance, parents may feel that because their sons and daughters are adults that they can handle more details regarding the legal process. However, this action could result in individuals feeling as if they need to take sides or have some sort of participation in the divorce itself, which could cause unnecessary stress.

Is the home worth keeping after divorce?

Some individuals may feel that they are losing a great deal when ending their marriages. These feelings may be tied to the loss of companionship, a spouse or possibly physical assets. Because it is not unusual for individuals to get attached to their belongings, it is also common for parties to have difficulty dividing assets during divorce. However, holding onto certain property may not always be in New York residents' best interests.

The family home in particular is often a debated asset. Some individuals may feel that they have put a considerable amount of time into making the house a home, and the idea of losing that home could fill them with disappointment. This feeling may not be enough to overcome the possible difficulties that keeping the home could pose.

Find out what your personal property is worth before you settle

High-asset divorces are not always just about the retirement accounts, investments and real estate. Your home and garage may be full of personal property that has value far beyond your emotional attachment to each object. 

When you have valuable assets such as collections, antiques, artwork and jewelry, determining the fair market value is essential to getting your fair share of the marital property. 

Prenup impacts possible Weinstein, Chapman high asset divorce

Many New York residents with a considerable amount of money often utilize prenuptial agreements. Though these documents may help stipulate how certain aspects of a high asset divorce may be handled, they can still result in individuals coming out of the process with a significant settlement. The prenup of Harvey Weinstein and Georgina Chapman could result in such outcomes.

Though Chapman has not yet formally filed for divorce, she has expressed the desire to do so in the wake of the sexual harassment claims brought against her husband. Some individuals speculate that she has waited to file in order for the couple to reach their 10th anniversary, which passed recently. According to terms of their prenup, Chapman receives a larger amount of spousal support in the event of divorce the longer the couple were married.

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